Why Caring Less in Dating Works - For me

Because it's not about caring less, it's about having less invested. The less you have emotionally invested, the less you have to lose. The less you have emotionally invested, the more you have for yourself. Being greedy is the way to go. I think maybe I'm not mature enough to have enough to care for myself and for someone else at the same time, yet. I'm not a good juggler. I knew I shouldn't have kids. It just f*cks you up. Is it sick that while I like being in a relationship, I always find it extremely difficult? I even find some friendships difficult and have been known to cut all ties, cold turkey. Perhaps I'm just still very selfish. I don't have enough feelings to go around. So when I care less for them, I care more for me, which works for me. Therefore I'm f*cked when I actually care about someone else. Basically I can't win. Makes sense.

A couple months went to a Switchfoot concert, free tix, and someone (aka Josh, sign) had to tell me they're a Christian rockband. I thought they were singing about love, not about God. Anyway, they keep coming up on my Safetysuit station on Pandora and I'm really digging their "Your Love is a Song." Check it out.

Wait, guys can spot the "games" ??

In WMLB/WMMB, the various "games" men play are outlined- they push your buttons to draw a reaction. They want you to react emotionally because it shows you care, which gives them power and can also make them lose interest in you. Weird since men are looking for feelings in women supposedly, but I guess they don't want someone irrational who lacks control over their emotions (whoops facial expressions that give my entire mind away).

Digressing slightly, last night I was out to dinner/drinks with the exclusive, and obviously the check came and he reached for his wallet. I said, "hey I'll get the tip." He said, "okay if you want." UMM WHAT!!! Argov clearly states that a man would never thinkkkkkk of letting his DREAM GIRL pay! Yes it was only the tip, but still. I almost fell out of my chair. I'm sure it was written all over my face- WTF is going on! I am a DREAM GIRL! He ended up paying the tip anyway, I didn't have change. But still. I'll try not to overanalyze that for three days.

So anyway, he's texting me today and I'm being a little coy:
Me: if you're lucky...
The man: oh you're playing tough huh?
Me: im not playin babe i just am
The Man: two can play at that game

GAME? PLAYING? Hang on....


Sorry I had to pick up my eyes that just rolled out of my head. Earlier in the week I also said I had plans one night, and he did the exact same thing the next night although he then changed plans so they included me. CLEARLY doing exactly what I'm trying to do.

Why do we need to do this show and dance? Is this what dating is? If so, I don't know, the cat lady life is looking good.

Male friends?

Okay, hypothetically speaking (or not), you're newly exclusive with a guy. You've had "the talk" = I want to see only you, mutual agreement. This implies that you don't want to see anyone else. Doesn't this mean ROMANTICALLY? I mean, I think it's safe to say both parties have friends of the opposite sex - although I guess this can be a heated debate. When you first establish exclusivity, isn't it also understood that you're not getting married and there is no ring on your finger and you're still supposed to have your own life, so it should be okay to still hang out with friends (of the opposite sex)? Specifically to drink beers while watching a baseball game, with Unlovable? My GF who abruptly (great masculine communication!) signed off expressed disdain at this game plan.

I don't have work tomorrow because I have my interview in the afternoon, so I'd have to feign illness half way through the day if I came in...and I don't find that all too believable when it's supposed to be 85 degrees out, so I might as well just call out the whole day and enjoy my night/not stress all morning. I'm running low on time off especially with my vacay planned at the end of the month, but hopefully it won't matter because I'll have a brand new job anyway! So moral of the story, I'd like to have a fun night. I mean, I could always meet up with Mr. Exclusive later in the evening!

Oh gosh, he just calls and says he's going in early tomorrow! Totally ruins my plans! Oh well. No good luck fun I guess.